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Divorce : A failure of perseverance ?

  Many people come to marriage with the expectations that their lives will be better than life alone. Most of the time those expectations are unrealistic and not met in the relationship. These unmet expectations will turn to feelings of anger and hate towards the other partner. In fact, according to a data it was mentioned that the divorce rate occurs between the two to five years of marriage. At this stage the couple still in the process of getting used to each other behavior, strength, and weakness. The relationship can be fragile if both partners are not willing to put some efforts in the relationship. Many reasons could explain why couples at this stage are vulnerable and susceptible to divorce. The first reason is communication in the relationship. People struggle to communicate clearly to help the other person understand what they are saying, or they talk just to be heard and not understood. This is something that I have learned in my marriage, and I am vary grateful. I have also
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What is the best way to raise our children?

Raising children is a complex and deeply personal journey, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach. However, there are some general principles and strategies that can contribute to raising well-rounded and responsible individuals. I was raised in a Christian family with good principles based on the scriptures and teachings of religious leaders. The way my mother raised me helped me avoid making many mistakes that young people often make regarding alcohol, sex, and drugs. I do not want to claim that the way she raised me was perfect, but it played a significant role in shaping who I am today. Of course, my mother made some mistakes or was sometimes overly strict, and there were moments when I felt unloved. I remember a specific incident when she promised to buy me a brand-new iPhone if I achieved a 4.0 GPA in high school. I worked tirelessly, eagerly anticipating the promised gift. However, at the end of the semester, she informed me that she didn't have the financial means to
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The place of fathers in our societies

Today I would like to talk about the importance of having a father in the process of raising children. Many people claim that there no harm in raising children without their fathers. In some instances, I can understand because some fathers have been abusive and did not provide at all for their family, so it makes sense in this situation to support this claim. Living without a father can create both emotional and physical needs in the children behavior. Fathers represent confidence in the house a person to who the children can look for comfort and protection. Living without him could increase behavioral problems in the children attitude.  My nephew dad’s in the process of divorcing his partner went to France to work.  I was living with them because the University I was attending was not too far from the place. No one at home could calm my nephew when he was doing not the right things. He was consistently sad or mad or rebellious at everyone. Luckily his father came back to take and go
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Communication a useful tool.

  Simple as it may seem, communication has the power to resolve conflicts and ensure true happiness.  From everyday life to historical figures, we have learned how effective communication can impact the  lives of millions. One of my favorite historical figures who exemplifies this is Jesus Christ. Through his  teachings and exceptional communication skills, Jesus Christ influenced the lives of countless people  worldwide. His teachings are documented in the Bible, which is one of the most widely read and  published books in the world. I came across a quote during my study on the power of words and  communication that resonated with me: "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will  forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." This quote is often attributed  to the famous poet and civil rights activist, Maya Angelou, although its origin story is debatable. Communication also serves as a powerful tool for conflict resolution.
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What can we learn from bad events.

  I lost my father when I was only six years old. He was the main provider for our family, and his unexpected death had a significant impact on our lifestyle. As a result, I was separated from my siblings due to financial constraints, and being the youngest, I stayed with my mother. It was a difficult time, and I found myself feeling angry at God for taking my dad away too soon. I couldn't help but envy my siblings who had been taken in by our wealthier uncles and had all their needs met, while I struggled with fewer resources. This continued to shape my youth. However, I've come to realize that despite the pain and hardships, God has always been there for me, working behind the scenes to prepare a remarkable plan for my life. In 2019, while serving as a missionary in the England Manchester mission, I experienced a transformative healing. One Monday, amidst tears and questioning, I heard a voice telling me, "I have always been with you during these moments." In that
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Sexual intimacy and the place of families and friends in a relationship.

Many young people, especially those who are members of the church and in the dating phase, often feel afraid to discuss sexual intimacy. They may lack the knowledge on how to initiate such conversations or fear giving the wrong impression to their partner due to the cultural norms they have been raised in. I strongly believe that while this topic can be sensitive, it is crucial to find appropriate ways to address it. In my country, there is a cultural practice of pre-marital initiation where young couples are taught about various aspects of sex and how to satisfy their partners . Furthermore, our church provides resources such as bishops and manuals that can be utilized to learn about this subject. There should be no shame associated with discussing this sensitive topic; instead, it should be approached as an opportunity for both partners to enjoy and understand each other better. It is often the lack of information or the desire to learn about how to sexually satisfy their partners
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Four important steps to ensure happiness.

  Marriage is the union between two people who love each other and are willing to live together and share everything with each other. There are important steps that partners need to follow before deciding to get married. These steps include dating, courtship, engagement, and marriage. Step 1: Dating When dating someone, it's important to take the time to get to know the person and ensure that you can spend quality time together. Personally, I believe that spending at least one year together before moving to the next steps is ideal. While some may argue that there is no set timeline for love, I believe that it is beneficial to have enough time to see your partner's behavior under different circumstances, such as stress, anger, and happiness. This understanding helps both individuals in the relationship to improve and provide better care for each other. It's often said, "Never date someone you would never consider marrying," but I believe we should be more flexible
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