What is the best way to raise our children?

Raising children is a complex and deeply personal journey, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach. However, there are some general principles and strategies that can contribute to raising well-rounded and responsible individuals.

I was raised in a Christian family with good principles based on the scriptures and teachings of religious leaders. The way my mother raised me helped me avoid making many mistakes that young people often make regarding alcohol, sex, and drugs. I do not want to claim that the way she raised me was perfect, but it played a significant role in shaping who I am today. Of course, my mother made some mistakes or was sometimes overly strict, and there were moments when I felt unloved. I remember a specific incident when she promised to buy me a brand-new iPhone if I achieved a 4.0 GPA in high school. I worked tirelessly, eagerly anticipating the promised gift. However, at the end of the semester, she informed me that she didn't have the financial means to fulfill her promise. I was disappointed and angry, which led me to decide never to make deals with her again. However, I later understood that it was her way of motivating me to work harder and achieve my goals. While this example highlights how some parents believe in rewarding their children for good behavior, I personally believe it may not be the best approach. Promising rewards can lead to negative changes in children's attitudes if parents fail to keep their word. Instead, parents should encourage their children to work hard and surprise them with gifts or tokens of appreciation whenever the children perform well or show effort.

Another common parenting approach involves excessive protection, shielding children from facing the consequences of their actions. However, the best way to raise children is to let them experience the consequences of their choices, within reasonable limits. By doing so, parents can help their children understand the outcomes of their actions and develop a sense of responsibility. Of course, parents should step in when the consequences of their children's actions are potentially dangerous or may have long-term negative effects.

Parents can also try their best to promote religious or moral teachings, parents should share their values and beliefs with their children while promoting critical thinking and open-mindedness. Expose them to different perspectives and encourage them to explore their own spirituality or moral compass as they grow.

Setting clear boundaries and expectations is vital in providing structure and guidance. Children need consistent rules and consequences, as well as understanding the reasons behind them. By promoting a balance between freedom and responsibility, parents can empower their children to make informed choices.

It is unfortunate that in some states, like California, parents are not allowed to oppose their children's decisions to change their gender, and doing so can lead to legal consequences. However, it is crucial to note that there are cases where children later regret the choices, they made regarding gender change. The scripture says that "the Lord chastises those he loves." In my opinion, the best example of raising a child involves being friendly and approachable while setting clear boundaries and expectations. Additionally, it is important to show appreciation when a child does something good or meaningful.

In conclusion, raising children is a complex task, and there is no definitive formula. However, creating a loving and supportive environment, allowing children to face consequences, and striking a balance between protection and independence can contribute to their development. Parents should also share their values and beliefs while encouraging critical thinking and openness to different perspectives. Flexibility, empathy, and learning from mistakes are essential qualities for successful parenting.