Four important steps to ensure happiness.

 Marriage is the union between two people who love each other and are willing to live together and share everything with each other. There are important steps that partners need to follow before deciding to get married. These steps include dating, courtship, engagement, and marriage.

Step 1: Dating

When dating someone, it's important to take the time to get to know the person and ensure that you can spend quality time together. Personally, I believe that spending at least one year together before moving to the next steps is ideal. While some may argue that there is no set timeline for love, I believe that it is beneficial to have enough time to see your partner's behavior under different circumstances, such as stress, anger, and happiness. This understanding helps both individuals in the relationship to improve and provide better care for each other. It's often said, "Never date someone you would never consider marrying," but I believe we should be more flexible with this statement during the dating phase. Dating for a longer period of time can help partners grow together and lay a stronger foundation for a successful marriage.

Step 2: Courtship

Courtship is the second step on the journey to marriage. During this period, it's important to establish the direction of the relationship. This is the time to discuss and plan for the future, such as career aspirations, housing, and other shared goals. Openly discussing these expectations can help both partners hold each other accountable and work together to achieve their shared goals. Regularly reviewing and adjusting these goals can lead to better harmony in the relationship. Courtship can be seen as a time for companionship inventory, where couples review their goals, discuss problems, and make plans to improve their relationship.

Step 3: Engagement

Engagement is a phase where partners are highly committed to each other and have established boundaries and a clear direction for the relationship. It's an important step for the man to plan a proposal to his partner. While some may feel pressured to make the proposal extravagant with expensive gifts, the most important aspect is expressing sincere love and the desire to spend a lifetime together. It's essential to offer gifts that are affordable, as the real life begins after marriage. Going into debt for a proposal or wedding is not advisable. The proposal should make the other partner feel comfortable and confident in their decision to get married. Whether it's a formal proposal or a surprise one, the key is to choose a way that will resonate with the partner and make them feel loved and cherished.

Step 4: Marriage

Marriage is the ultimate goal of these steps. When these three steps are followed with care and without rushing, the chances of a lasting relationship are significantly higher. Research has shown that the way we date and the level of commitment we demonstrate, as well as the thought put into the engagement, can predict the strength of the relationship. By the time of marriage, both partners should have a clear understanding of important aspects such as the number of children they want, their desired location to live, and how to manage finances. A successful marriage requires mutual respect, the willingness to make adjustments, and the ability to address and resolve issues together. It's important to limit interference from family or close friends, as outside intervention can weaken the relationship.

In conclusion, I believe that these steps are necessary for building a long and lasting relationship. While some people may not have followed these steps exactly and still have a happy marriage, it ultimately comes down to the willingness of both partners to make adjustments and be there for each other.



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