Divorce : A failure of perseverance ?

 Many people come to marriage with the expectations that their lives will be better than life alone. Most of the time those expectations are unrealistic and not met in the relationship.

These unmet expectations will turn to feelings of anger and hate towards the other partner. In fact, according to a data it was mentioned that the divorce rate occurs between the two to five years of marriage.

At this stage the couple still in the process of getting used to each other behavior, strength, and weakness. The relationship can be fragile if both partners are not willing to put some efforts in the relationship. Many reasons could explain why couples at this stage are vulnerable and susceptible to divorce. The first reason is communication in the relationship. People struggle to communicate clearly to help the other person understand what they are saying, or they talk just to be heard and not understood.

This is something that I have learned in my marriage, and I am vary grateful. I have also learned that if I was not sure about my point it was okay to ask for more time just to be sure about my thoughts. When it comes to communication in the relationship some partners have the tendency to dominate the other person. If this situation is not resolve it could lead to conflict in the relationship. Another reason why couples could divorce is due to involving close family and friends’ opinion in the relationship.

Most people ignore the fact that when get married to a person and not to her/his family and that it is important to set barriers with family and friends. My nephew divorced his wife because of this issue. She was telling her friends and family about her relationship and the things her husband was doing. Most of married ladies in the neighborhood were aware of her life situation. Adding to that fact Many couples divorce because of the non-satisfaction in sex with their partners. Sexual intimacy plays an important role because it helps the family maintain its stability.

For men sex is a way of connecting to their wives and expressing their love while for the women the preliminary means more than the actual act. Another tricky thing is the fact that couples do not talk often when they are engaged about sex and what could be potential challenges. It is good to talk about sexual intimacy when we are engaged and committed to someone. It is very beneficial to talk about sexual intimacy when we are married because it would help avoid frustration and misunderstanding of each other's needs. I personally believe that if a couple is sexually happy, they will be happier in the relationship.

A fact that surprised me was that in the United States most divorce is initiated by the women. Another statistic mentioned that 70% of men get are remarried after their divorce when it is not the case with women. Finally, I think that another reason that could lead couples to divorce is related to finance. It could be difficult to manage finance, and this could lead to conflict. Couples could be selfish sometimes when it comes to spending their moneys with the needs of their partners. It is not that they do not like their partner, but it is more about many experiences they went through which has shaped his/her. Correct the mistakes, write a conclusion

In conclusion, unrealistic expectations, poor communication, family interference, sexual dissatisfaction, and financial conflicts are some of the common reasons that contribute to divorce. Addressing these issues requires effort, compromise, and effective communication from both partners. By recognizing and working on these challenges, couples can increase their chances of building a strong and fulfilling long-term relationship.

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