Communication a useful tool.

 Simple as it may seem, communication has the power to resolve conflicts and ensure true happiness.

 From everyday life to historical figures, we have learned how effective communication can impact the

 lives of millions. One of my favorite historical figures who exemplifies this is Jesus Christ. Through his

 teachings and exceptional communication skills, Jesus Christ influenced the lives of countless people

 worldwide. His teachings are documented in the Bible, which is one of the most widely read and

 published books in the world. I came across a quote during my study on the power of words and

 communication that resonated with me: "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will

 forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." This quote is often attributed

 to the famous poet and civil rights activist, Maya Angelou, although its origin story is debatable.

Communication also serves as a powerful tool for conflict resolution. This is evident in international relations between countries, where both parties are often required to come to the table and discuss possible solutions together. Unfortunately, it is disheartening to see many couples today struggle to establish strong communication, leading to divorce in most cases. I have been married for only six months, and I can say that it was initially challenging because our communication skills were lacking. However, the positive aspect is that we recognized our weaknesses and made specific plans to improve our communication.

Our first step was to identify our problems and unmet needs individually. We decided to take the time to reflect on what was personally bothering us before presenting it to each other. The second step was to set a designated time to sit down and resolve conflicts. We realized that resolving conflicts on the spot was unwise, as heightened emotions could negatively impact our words and actions. The third step involved clearly expressing our concerns and unmet needs. We emphasized the importance of honesty in sharing our feelings with each other. The fourth step was to attentively listen to each other's point of view in order to understand our respective feelings. The fifth step entailed brainstorming solutions together for each other's concerns. Finally, the last step was to follow up on the solutions we had collectively brainstormed.

I can testify that initially, it wasn't easy for us to humble ourselves and work through these steps. However, in the end, it was worth it because we grew closer, felt heard, and appreciated by each other. I have witnessed the destructive impact of poor communication in relationships through my nephew back in Ivory Coast. He was married for only one year and already contemplating divorce. Both he and his wife struggled to communicate effectively, and his wife would often confide in her friends about their relationship problems. In short, they divorced, and he is now happily remarried. I am not saying that his wife was entirely at fault during their arguments. Instead, I am testifying that a lack of good communication can destroy a relationship. When communicating, it is also important to pay attention to the body language of our interlocutor. By doing so, it becomes easier to discern their feelings and understand any hidden messages they may be trying to convey, which helps prevent conflicts.

Overall, communication is a vital tool in resolving conflicts, fostering happiness, and building strong relationships. It requires effort, humility, and active listening, but the rewards are immeasurable. I have also learned from my mission President that in a conflict there is no right or wrong side. Both parts are rights and wrong. It is for this reason communicating about the problem clearly is needed and necessary whenever there is a problem.